12 Signs Your Spouse May be Having an Affair

Oklahoma is a no-fault state, and an affair may not carry the weight in a courtroom that many expect, but it’s still incredibly relevant to your divorce if you suspect your spouse is having an affair. First it may motivate the divorce, or prove to be the final straw. Or it might establish a religious basis for a divorce. Or an affair may create an opportunity for the aggrieved spouse to get out of the marriage while the other spouse is distracted by her new paramour, providing opportunities that may not have been there otherwise.

The bottom line is that suspecting that your spouse may be having an affair can be a distressing and challenging situation. There are some tell tell signs though that should trigger suspicion if you’re observing them in your spouse. It’s important to remember that these signs are not definitive proof, and there could be other explanations for these behaviors. Communication and trust are essential in any relationship, so consider having an open and honest conversation with your spouse if you have concerns. Here are some potential indicators that your spouse may be having an affair:

• Emotional distance: Your spouse may become emotionally distant, showing less interest in your life and feelings.
• Decreased intimacy: A sudden decrease in physical intimacy, including affection, sex, and kissing, could be a sign.
• Secrecy: If your spouse becomes unusually secretive with their phone, computer, or other personal items, it might raise suspicion.
• Changes in routines: Unexplained changes in their daily routine, like working late more often, spending more time away from home, or making frequent trips without a clear reason.
• Emotional changes: Sudden mood swings or emotional changes, like increased irritability or defensiveness, could indicate underlying stress or guilt.
• Decreased communication: A reduction in communication, such as fewer text messages, phone calls, or quality time spent together.
• Unexplained expenses: Discovering unexplained expenses or withdrawals from shared accounts may be a red flag.
• Change in appearance: Your spouse may start paying more attention to their appearance, such as dressing differently or losing weight, which can be related to an affair.
• Protective of their phone or social media: If your spouse guards their phone or is unusually secretive about their social media accounts, it may raise concerns.
• Defensiveness: Becoming defensive or evasive when you ask about their whereabouts or activities.
• Unexplained absences: Frequent unexplained absences from home or excuses for being away.
• New friends or acquaintances: A sudden influx of new friends or acquaintances who seem to take up a significant amount of your spouse’s time and attention.

It’s important to approach these signs with caution and not jump to conclusions. Open and honest communication with your spouse is often the best way to address these concerns. If you suspect infidelity, consider seeking the advice of a therapist or counselor to help navigate this difficult situation and decide on the best course of action for your relationship. Whether infidelity is to blame or not, the above activities could prove problematic for the relationship regardless.

We are advocates for marriages remaining in tact, however, if infidelity proves a mountain too high to overcome in your marriage, The Smith Firm is here to help you navigate getting out of it. You can reach us at (405) 843-1000, or schedule your consultation online.